I grew up in a same kind of environment. My parents are boomers. Their generation have a collective mindset. Show no emotion, follow the path that everybody is taking, if you fail at it you're a disappointment. It's not even their fault. I don't think, they're even aware of that's how they think. Emotional availability was not a part of their parent plan. For the past five years, I have been working on my mental health, undoing everything other people had done. And I realised that I can't wait for someone to come and comfort me, be gentle with me. I'll always have that internal need but I have to be that person for myself. I have to be the parent that I always deserved. I started becoming gentle with myself and it's making some progress. I hope it does to you as well.
thank you for sharing this. i really relate to what you wrote. i’m also on the journey of learning how to reparent myself. it’s slow and steady, and some days are harder than others. you’re right, it’s not fully their fault. their upbringing was even more extreme than ours, and realizing that has helped me find some forgiveness. thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment, and i hope your healing continues.
Gosh! The invisible burdens we carry.. sending you lots of love as you bravely walk the path of making these visible so you can shed them. It’s such powerful and yet vulnerable work!
I grew up in a same kind of environment. My parents are boomers. Their generation have a collective mindset. Show no emotion, follow the path that everybody is taking, if you fail at it you're a disappointment. It's not even their fault. I don't think, they're even aware of that's how they think. Emotional availability was not a part of their parent plan. For the past five years, I have been working on my mental health, undoing everything other people had done. And I realised that I can't wait for someone to come and comfort me, be gentle with me. I'll always have that internal need but I have to be that person for myself. I have to be the parent that I always deserved. I started becoming gentle with myself and it's making some progress. I hope it does to you as well.
thank you for sharing this. i really relate to what you wrote. i’m also on the journey of learning how to reparent myself. it’s slow and steady, and some days are harder than others. you’re right, it’s not fully their fault. their upbringing was even more extreme than ours, and realizing that has helped me find some forgiveness. thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment, and i hope your healing continues.
I relate a lot to this article
Time to take a big deep breathe and say it's all going to be ok !
Thank you, Trudy. I truly treasure you sharing your hard-earned wisdom with me while I go through this journey.
We have all been there ,it does get better .
Gosh! The invisible burdens we carry.. sending you lots of love as you bravely walk the path of making these visible so you can shed them. It’s such powerful and yet vulnerable work!