I lived with my late husband who was bipolar and my children and I coped with his mood swings the same way you describe. We were always walking on egg shells, or more like razor’s edge. Lately I have found myself getting upset with my adult children when I feel disrespected. And I see how what I lived with is responsible for this shift in my behavior. When he was alive, I wasn’t as volatile with my children, because we were all dealing with him.
Dipti, thank you for sharing something so personal. I can only imagine how hard that must have been to live through. It takes a lot to hold that kind of experience and then recognize how it’s shaped you. I really appreciate your honesty. it’s not easy to look at these patterns so closely 💛
My anger destroyed some very important relationships. Not because my anger wasn’t justified. It came from a place of deep hurt.. like a wounded animal who bites when u touch a wound. But what I have learned is that my anger is my responsibility. And I don’t have the right to channel my hurt violently.. however angry I might be. It’s been a very long journey, I still get angry but I have learnt to understand that my words lashed out in that moment have long lasting impact. Thank you for creating this beautiful
Your words made me tear up to be honest. Especially the metaphor of the anger coming from a wound being touched. That’s exactly it. You really have come miles away in case you needed the validation. Thanks for reading and being part of my life! ❤️
Interestingly M (you know who) had said to me about my progress using a similar metaphor.. something on the lines of the wound has healed and doesn’t hurt when touched any more. The scar is there but the pain is no longer there. Here is wishing we all get to that healed state:)
Thanks for sharing, Trudy. I agree, anger needs awareness and care. For me, this piece was about understanding where it comes from rather than letting it take over.
I lived with my late husband who was bipolar and my children and I coped with his mood swings the same way you describe. We were always walking on egg shells, or more like razor’s edge. Lately I have found myself getting upset with my adult children when I feel disrespected. And I see how what I lived with is responsible for this shift in my behavior. When he was alive, I wasn’t as volatile with my children, because we were all dealing with him.
Dipti, thank you for sharing something so personal. I can only imagine how hard that must have been to live through. It takes a lot to hold that kind of experience and then recognize how it’s shaped you. I really appreciate your honesty. it’s not easy to look at these patterns so closely 💛
This touched me 💖
I’m really touched that it reached you, Amrita 💗 thank you for reading!
My anger destroyed some very important relationships. Not because my anger wasn’t justified. It came from a place of deep hurt.. like a wounded animal who bites when u touch a wound. But what I have learned is that my anger is my responsibility. And I don’t have the right to channel my hurt violently.. however angry I might be. It’s been a very long journey, I still get angry but I have learnt to understand that my words lashed out in that moment have long lasting impact. Thank you for creating this beautiful
Space to unpack these emotions.
Your words made me tear up to be honest. Especially the metaphor of the anger coming from a wound being touched. That’s exactly it. You really have come miles away in case you needed the validation. Thanks for reading and being part of my life! ❤️
Interestingly M (you know who) had said to me about my progress using a similar metaphor.. something on the lines of the wound has healed and doesn’t hurt when touched any more. The scar is there but the pain is no longer there. Here is wishing we all get to that healed state:)
Beautiful! I need to book my next chat ❤️
thank you for sharing such a personal deep dive into anger <3
Thank you, Liv. I was nervous to share something so close to home, but it means a lot that it resonated. <3
Anger is a wasteful negative emotion, it often needs to be treated professionally. It's also about respecting others.
Thanks for sharing, Trudy. I agree, anger needs awareness and care. For me, this piece was about understanding where it comes from rather than letting it take over.